Understanding Men and Women

Here are some mistakes women and men make in conversations:

A woman follows her natural tendency to offer unsolicited advice, but the man sees it as questioning his competence and ability.
A man follows his natural tendency to offer solutions, but the woman sees it as invalidating her feelings.
Women cope with stress by reaching out and talking while men cope with stress by withdrawing.
Women want to feel cherished; men want to feel needed.
Women want respect and devotion; men want appreciation and admiration.

Here are some other differences between them:

Women are relationship oriented while men are goal oriented.
Men see conversations as negotiations for power; women see them as negotiations for closeness.
Men want to preserve independence; women want to preserve intimacy.
Men seek to win and avoid failure; women seek closeness and avoid isolation.
Men avoid taking orders (since that means low status and loss of independence); women are ok with taking orders (if it is perceived as forming a connection).
Men seek control; women seek understanding.
Men prefer inequality and asymmetry; women prefer equality and symmetry.
Men are adversarial (with conflicting goals); women are synergetic (with common goals).